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 Hurts his mind.  Due to this, negative feelings develop in the youth about their intelligence and ability to study.  Once negative emotions are attached to their self-concept, no matter how much they try, they fail to achieve success.  Young people should be naturally optimistic.  For them this defeat is painful, no one from outside can give them confidence.  The lure of rewards or even words of encouragement do not motivate them.  'I don't like to read, I can't' - the implication is that I don't want to fail again and laugh at myself.  But if we help such students to change their self-concept, then they can be successful.  For this we have to guide them patiently and lovingly without damaging their self-respect.  Efforts should be made to rebuild them from the original.  Initially they should be helped in solving them by giving them simple questions.  They should be encouraged by praise, even in the slightest of their success.  In this way, on being successful again and again, the feeling of defeat and despair, which had been persistent for a long time in their mind, will gradually go away;  There will be a transformation in their self-concept and confidence will return to them.  They will become like new beings.  Self-concept is formed and strengthened by experiences only.  Second, it can also be changed by more positive experiences.  In short, the various aims of life are determined by self-concept.  Our desires, feelings and conduct depend entirely on this self-concept. We see how people's behavior and attitudes change according to their perception of themselves.  This can be called 'directing identity'.  Each 'identity' brings different reactions in the individual according to the self-concept.  This can be seen in the following example - A person who considers himself healthy, does not get satisfied by considering himself healthy.  With a sense of pride in this matter, he either openly praises himself or secretly has a feeling of insignificance towards others.  He cites many and often unrelated reasons for his recovery.  He has a contempt for the patients and says in front of them with complacency, “I have never taken medicine in my life, never went to the doctor.  ' If that healthy person is accustomed to hard work and has been able to get some success in life, he advises others thinking of it as a slacker or sluggish, 'If you work hard, you will be healthy.  ' Those who consider themselves to be very educated, beautiful or wealthy, they also behave in the same way towards others.  During the formation of personality, imitation of others also gives such attitude.  In short, thoughts are formed according to self-perception, behavior changes and reactions emerge to justify them.  Not only this, our body is being formed every moment as a result of our internal perception about our nature and according to our thoughts, important chemical and electromagnetic systems change in it. Suppose a child or a young man is brought up in such an environment, where idol worship is considered meaningless by calling it superstition;  Or a person who has been trained to regard his own religion and his own system of worship as superior and to regard other beliefs and practices as inferior or wrong, he can never feel reverence or devotion to idols worshiped by other faiths  .  If one tries to explain to him the importance of idolatry, the meaning of symbols in worship, their utility in the path of enlightenment, the possibility of the omnipresent, omnipotent and omniscient God manifesting to his devotees, then his firm self-concept can honestly help him in this way.  Will not accept the interpretation.  The fanatical thoughts attached to his ego make him do destructive deeds.  Is it possible for him to cross the limits of the environment he grew up in and the guidance, training, encouragement and encouragement he has been given over a long period of time?  Does he deserve mercy?  Or contempt?  Is it possible to slowly but completely change his self-concept?  There are many such people among us who call themselves revolutionary and talk about eradicating caste discrimination in their speeches.  They have neither understood the complexity of this problem nor considered the means of solving it.  They have neither taken the advice of experts in this field nor know about the efforts made by sincere people to solve this problem.  They do not reveal their caste in front of everyone, but inadvertently express it during the conversation.  Do they really end it for not accepting caste discrimination? By studying, we will sow the seeds of showing the path in eradicating this discrimination.  call to do?  Have they risen from the arrogance of the ego and gained a deep and comprehensive ability to solve the problem without prejudice?  If not, then they are of no use cursing the darkness with mere hatred and vexation, only harsh words.  Light has to be brought to remove the darkness.  Who will bring it?  Can those who wander in the darkness themselves show the path of light to others?  What will those who are drowning themselves save the drowning?  Only people sitting fixed on the rock, facing the velocity of the current, can save the flowing streams.  In fact, there is no caste of the true 'I' of man, but until the knowledge of that 'I' or 'soul', it is not easy to remove the other feelings and emotions associated with it.  Only those who have experienced these truths understand exactly how diseases of caste, creed, etc., infect people from the very beginning and how they impede a person's self-concept and prevent him from thinking and acting in an absolute sense.  .  Only those who have experienced this are able to lift people up without causing any harm to them.  When the horizon of human knowledge expands, when he learns the secret of enlightening himself and the principle of rising above caste discrimination, then even if the problem is not completely eliminated, then his seriousness decreases significantly.  In fact, this destroys all lowliness and narrowness and paves the way for true progress.